The Passage of Time and How to Make Use of Every Moment
Mood Music: Reflection by Prince
For the first time in a long time, I not only hear time’s winged chariot, but I actually care about the time that is passing before me.
Yesteryear time was one of those things that I wanted desperately to slow down so that I could have more time to sleep or more time to stay out with my friends, but now time is something that I actually respect.
For a long time, I shut myself down to time in my sorrow. Year after year I’d watch Dick Clark’s New Year’s Rockin’ Eve, see the ball drop in Times Square, and halfheartedly proclaim, “This year is my year.” Until there was no more year left and I found myself making the same proclamation- “This is my year!” Then life would get in the way of living.
In the last decade of my life, I suffered loss after loss. Loss of those near and dear to me, loss of several lifelong friendships, loss of two jobs, loss of myself until I felt like I was nearly losing my mind.
I suffered so much that time was the last thing I paid attention to until I realize it had ran out.
Nothing calls your attention to the ticking of the clock like realizing there is no more time to love someone and no more time to do certain things.
Even then I didn’t really wake up. I existed inside a safe coma until something whispered to my spirit like Jesus did to Jairus’s daughter and commanded “Talitha Cumi- Damsel, I say unto you arise.”
Only then did I awake from war and see the ruins around me. All the ways I could have lived more. All the time I wasted in careless devotion to dead end jobs, material things, and people. The hundreds of ways I could have loved the people around me more and especially the thousands of ways I could have loved myself.
It was an equally tragic and humbling moment. I was looking back on the past already etched in stone and the unformed future set before me like a piece of clay. I could not change the past, but I could shape my future more favorably.
How to Respect Your Life and Time
So what can you and I do to ensure that no more time is wasted? You can start by thinking of your life as a gift already brought and paid for.
God has blessed us all with this beautiful life and given us charge over it. Our time on earth is about loving, encouraging, nurturing and finding our purpose and fulfilling it. Any moment spent doing anything other than that is a moment wasted.
Another thing we can do is take responsibility for our actions. Sometimes we expend too much energy on blaming others for our own mistakes and failures. Sometimes it’s not your boss, your partner, or the devil who made you do it, it’s you.
Taking responsibility for your actions allows you to see the cause and effect phenomenon of free will and encourages you to make better choices and in turn use of your time.
Also, mindfulness is important. Thinking of what’s behind you and in front of you has its purposes, but there is nothing like living in the moment. Disconnect from your phone, TV, or whatever other distraction available to you and live for this moment- it’s one you have never seen before and will never see again.
The last but most important thing we can do to ensure our time isn’t wasted is forgiving ourselves.
It is so easy to rag on yourself for all the things you could have achieved by now or done differently, but the past is just that and everything that has transpired in your life was a lesson to elevate you higher.
Forgive what is already said and done, and look forward to correcting mistakes of the past by making every day count.
Our time here is so precious and we never know when it will expire.
Make the most of your life everyday so that tomorrow you will not awake with any regrets.